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Agent X
12-08-2003, 04:56 AM
Ok, the purpose of this thread is simply to liven things up here at XE.

[8-10-03] Here's the deal.......I've been seeing this woman for a good eight months now. I want you people to understand my story, my feelings.

Okay, when I met this woman, I liked her...so I went to work on research on how to date, and such....Hell, I even did a long thread about it with another forum....another board.....ofcourse, they gave me the kind of advices that I needed.....but its hard to express myself. This woman is very beautiful, she understands me, I understand her....When I first saw her, I was attracted to her beautiful body...The way she dressed attracted me....because in my view she looked "sexy" (Now, at this time, I thought sexy meant the body structure, but it really means the personality of a person....When I mean she looked sexy, I meant......you know.....I mean, it'll make you go like "wow"....sure, sounds perverted, but I couldn't help it but to notice it....After we met a few weeks later, she started to become beautiful in my eyes [now, some guys are saying, she's nowhere near beautiful, especially my brother, ****ing brother, ****ing asshole] everytime I see her, she changes, everytime I see her, she becomes more beautiful every day that I see her....She showed intrest in me...during these times that we see each other, she is ALWAYS happy to see me.....she even comes into my room to talk to me once in a while.....[Yep. Even during my computer sessions. Damn. She didn't mind it though.] Now lemme go back to my story.)

She's blonde, and dirty, green eyes, nice, nice eyes, baby.....smoooooth lips.....nice ass, nice stomach (errr....waist)....that's the part where I say "whoa"......nice legs, very relaxed, happy, loving, willing to take action.....

Level 1: She shows intrest in me everytime we get to meet each other, or talk to each other.....

Level 2: She gives me hints here and there......sometimes she gives me the flirts....I never caught them....but the other board that I mentioned above, told me it could've led me to a sexual flirting session, or even higher; sex.

Level 3: She showed more intrest by inviting me to her birthday, she got all pissy and "dominant" by telling me I am going, damn, I'was thinking "damn, baby, relax" I went.....Now, our "friendship" evolved by her giving me a lapdance....it was even her willingness to do so....Nobody told her to do it....but she gave it to me. One of my favorite moments with this girl......Not only did the lapdance do it justice......but the way she gave me some hints at being "intrested" in me.

Now, this is where things get downhill, as I told KI. Its not really going downhill, its more a confusion, than a "downhill" The confusion part is like two fireballs bouncing at each other......one fireball is her, and one fireball is me. Well, she gives me her "intrest" hints here and there.....but she switches by week.....I mean, one week, I am at work, she is intrested in me, but the next week (at my job again) she goes back to being neutral. Next week, repeat the intrest, going back and forth, back and forth.....One of the weeks, I showed a lot of intrest by inviting her to my aunt's birthday party (same place that we held HER party at) On that same day, I hugged her one time......she puts her arm around my waist! Coolest thing there is! I loved that moment, it made me feel close to her....At the same time, her friend(s) Yes, I said FRIENDS died....Two of them. So, that's two nails in one heart......I can understand that....but she goes back and forth with her feelings towards me. I'm extremely confused at this time.

Now, lets go to Level Four.

Level 4: We went shopping with her friend.....Okay, so she and I got the chance to talk a bit here and there....We even went out to eat.....We talked about a lot of things....including the lapdance.... She got turned on when I said I enjoyed it.....She was happy, I like that. When she smiles, or laughs, I am happy. She also got turned on by me drinking (I'm 21, she is 23, actually, like I said, she had a birthday, and she turned 23, sooo......not much difference there, other than the one year difference between me and her.) She even asked me if I've had sex before.....I said no, cause its the truth....Lying is bad so I had to tell the truth...I wanted to lie about it so that she can be turned on and have sex with me (Hey, she is a wild woman, I mean she loves to party, and go clubbin' in fact, she even asked for sex during the lapdance day, from another guy, not me. ) By the end of the night, she asked for a picture of me. She wants a picture of me.

Level 5: Recently, She smiled at me, and I smiled at her back, during a big "meetup" among everyone...And when she left, she hugged me (sure, we did that all the time....but that's part of what I think its wierd,) and kissed me on the cheek....The next day, she kissed me again, on the cheek, and she said "hey baby".....The thing that is wierd about those, is that, she's never really kissed me on the cheek (usually we just hug, nothing more), or never said hey baby to me before that day.

We all went to clubbing the other day, on the way to the club, in the car, another woman yelled out "I love you!!" out loud, in front of everyone, including this girl I currently am after, and it pissed me off, because it would make the girl I wanted think I have a girlfriend, which isn't true, because she is my "friend" and the fact that she has a boyfriend....So, anyway, we were in the club, the woman I am after, she ignored me the whole time, she gave her "friend" a major, and long lapdance (longer than she ever did to me), once we came home, she looked at me like something was wrong, and then at the door, she was behind me, at the door, trying to get in, I hugged her goodbye, and she said she was coming to get her keys, she grabbed her keys, and walked out.

[12-5-03] Well...She told me that all the hints, the lapdance....were nothing.

Level 6: She was touching me all day...one of these days...I mean we both went to the mall....I was talking to her, all day, trying to get to know her, etc, etc. She touched me AAALLLLLL day....That night didn't go well, because I made a bunch of mistakes with her....but it got better the next night:

I asked her out. I held her hand, I rubbed her face, and asked her out....she said....when she has a job, we'll go out....I thought that she accepted my proposition, cause she didn't say no, she didn't say any of the worst words in history of dating history. (More on that later)

One day later, I opened the damn door for her, she said "hi baby" and I was trying to hug her...she walked STRAIGHT to my mom, who is her best friend, meaning that she walked away from me (the first few words that came out of my mind is "so, the date won't happen")...from that day FOWARD everytime I say hi, or she's in my presence, she always say "hi" in low voice....instead of the enthusiastic "hi!" and stuff....

I got SO mad.....SO mad, for the next few days...One week later, I went out to relax, clear my mind...once I got home, she was laying on the couch, she said "hi" in enthusiastic voice again, I got REALLY pissed off again, because she's going back and forth, so I spazzed through her....and SLAMMED the door on her...Man, I was PISSED. So pissed that I wanted to break something. Later that night, my brother started talking bad things about me to her, telling her this and that….he even asked her if she said yes after I asked her out…her response? “No, I told him call me for a coffee, sometime” That pissed me off more.

Ok, so I was pissed....I wrote a blog post about both of us.....it was LONG as hell. So, she got pissed, and got her best friend, who is also MY own mother involved in this.

I tried communicating with her for two weeks....and she gave me nothing but lies....

Ok, so rundown: Signals, hints, smiling, eye contact (ardent contact), hugging, happy expressions, enthsiasm, kisses on cheeks, jealousy, lapdance, touching, holding hands, and talking.....She gave me a lot of things that led me to believe she likes me......But she says they were nothing?

I was told to stay away from her for a long time, even my brother stepped in my business, AGAIN!

One week later, we were still on the conflict....it got out of hand....My mom confronted me about this whole thing, and she started to lecture me, here and there....That night....we went to the same club the woman goes to.....we didn't know she was there until she was talking to her lesbian friend...(Ohhh..lesbians!) And, we got away from her as much as possible....But I couldn't put my eyes away from her.....

She stripped two times...almost litterly showing her boobs...O_O....She did some hot lesbian action....but every once in a while after that, she started staring at me, I saw her eyes. She even started talking about me with her friends, and so on.

Next day, she started hiding from me, when I was shopping and stuff...She was going down, and tried not to be noticed by me.....but nice try, I did notice her.

I started to get over her.......and I don't care about her anymore.

Still, it doesn't change the fact that I think life sucks, love sucks....this situation made me think twice, and not believe in love. I do not believe in love, anymore.

[Please make intelligent posts, people....I want you guys to get used to threads like this....because honestly, the forums are mostly small posts...so lets start having long threads, good threads, okay?]

So, whatcha think? :rolleyes: Yeh, yeh, I suck...:rolleyes:

TeMpEsT
12-08-2003, 05:17 AM
My ex-girlfriend just recently broke up with me, about 2-3 weeks ago, and her new boyfriend IMs me and tells me about how serious they've gotten in a matter of 1 week. When a girl is all you have left, irony strikes in and nothing else matters. Your heart seethes with anticipation to find the culprit and show him your fists, but you can't. This girl is 14 hours away from where I live, and it's hard to enforce your anger knowing that...

You're completely right. Life sucks, love sucks, relationships suck, but you need to forget about it. I'm 15, you're 21, and I don't want to feel overpowering towards you, but this is just my input on it. Really sorry to hear about that, though.

BluehempXE
12-08-2003, 05:27 AM
I can't really say much, since I tend to stay away from relationships with most girls. I have gotten into some relationships, but they were all long and serious relationships. I'm not the type of guy who likes those shitty 1 day/week/month relationships. You can hardly get to know the girl in that amount of time.

She seems like she can be a fun person to be with. And it looks like you have found someone who you are interested in and would like to actually spend some quality time with. You say that she has a great personality and such, which is a good thing.

But it looks like you guys started off really well, spending time with each other and having fun. But as the "levels" go on, it looks like she is getting further away from you(not in a bad way, but maybe she has been less interested?)

JohnXE
12-08-2003, 08:00 AM
This comes from a guy with a girl wearing a hefty trashbag over her chest in his sig. Nice.

BluehempXE
12-08-2003, 03:24 PM
Originally posted by JohnXE
This comes from a guy with a girl wearing a hefty trashbag over her chest in his sig. Nice.

Uhmmmm ... no ... :rolleyes:

JoeyC2k4
12-08-2003, 04:52 PM
i dont really keep girlfriends long....i havelike 3 every 6 months and well thats not a long time each....(to lazy to do the math)

TuckerXE
12-09-2003, 01:11 AM
TeMpEsT - I feel your pain, man. I had something pretty similar happen in high school. It sucked, but I had to let it go in the end. Now (12 years later), I'm happily married, but when I was engaged, the girl I dated in hs told my fiancee that she wished she had ended up with me instead of her husband. Obviously, we don't hang out any more - my wife does not trust her.

Agent X/Carlos... that sucks, too. I'm sure most of us have gotten mixed signals from girls before, so we can sympathize. My opinion is that at this point, the girl's not interested in you, and you are totally right to move on. Don't give up on love, though - it's hard to make it work, but it's worth it when you can.

Captain Obvious
12-09-2003, 01:33 AM
Oh my god this is like my problem all over again!!! any one remember? haha well dude trust me! no mater what happens you will be all right! i promise! i went through something like that but not as crazy and posted it on this, but before the change! It was black and green then! very cool but i sware you will be alright!

TeMpEsT
12-09-2003, 02:41 AM
Relationships suck, but they're hard to get out of once you've fallen for someone.

LilClaw
12-15-2003, 11:15 PM
I pretty much avoided relationships my entire life, I was always the one who though really hard about whether or not to go out with a girl or not and eventurally never had a girlfriend. Yeah I hate my brain sometimes, its' always thinking, and this darn rubix cube is kicking my arse.

TeMpEsT
12-16-2003, 01:11 AM
See, I admire my brother: he's 18, no job, no girlfriend, virgin, but he's doing good in school. I just want to build the foundation before I decorate.

True
12-16-2003, 02:55 AM
My advice: Stay a virgin. After you cross that point, there aint no going back...You dont wanna live without it. :)

codeMatrix
12-16-2003, 03:26 AM
You post the same thing at every forum you go to, Carlos... I've seen this same thread 3 times now.

Anyway, I've been with the same girl for about 6 months now. If things keep going the way they are, I think we'll eventually get married (after we graduate from college of course).


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